Written by Becky Yarwood
Photograph by Thuy-vy Nguyen
Reference: ‘Alone Time in the Golden Age: Pre-Retiree and Retiree Experiences of Solitude’ (Manuscript in Preparation)
We spoke to 23 older adults who were either retired or planning to retire to better understand how retirement shapes their perceptions and experiences of solitude. Retirement often brings about significant changes, one of which is an increase in time spent alone. But what does this mean for retirees? Our research found that this increase in solitude created space for people to focus on themselves, leading to notable personal development in three key areas: self-awareness, self-focus, and self-authenticity.
1. Self-Awareness: Reflecting on Life’s Journey
Retirement provided many participants with an opportunity to reflect deeply on their life experiences and relationships. This time alone led to personal exploration and growth. For some, it was a chance to think critically, understand past choices, and identify areas for future development.
“I am able to reflect on some of the achievements and maybe where I went wrong—on what I can correct. Because, you see, even if you are retired, you still have life, you still have dreams to achieve.”
2. Self-Focus: Prioritizing Personal Interests
With the freedom that comes from no longer having work obligations, retirement allowed people to focus more on what they want to do, rather than what they have to do. Many felt they could finally engage in activities they had long desired, without the need to constantly consider the demands or expectations of others. This shift enabled them to prioritize what truly matters to them, enhancing their quality of life.
“I quite enjoy just a little bit of time to myself and just doing the things I want to do. I think there’s a balance to be had. Because you can end up doing too many things for other people, and not enough for yourself—and that takes some of the quality of life away.”
3. Self-Authenticity: Embracing One’s True Self
Solitude during retirement was described as a time to simply be. Without the pressures, expectations, or judgments of others, participants felt they could be genuine and connect with their true selves. This freedom made it easier to relax and fully embrace who they are.
“I feel like it’s the real me when I’m on my own... I feel utterly comfortable. Yes, at peace with myself. I don’t feel like I have to put on a public face. There’s a relaxation to it... and I’m comfortable.”
These reflections highlight how solitude in retirement can foster personal growth in various ways. How do you see solitude fitting into your life, whether retired or not? We’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to share your experiences and reflections in the comments below!
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